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I've been avoiding this website

 Ever since the Lie to Me news I just couldn't look at anything but for some reason I went back to twitter and tumblr but not eljay. Plus eljay seems to be under siege half the time anyway.

Hooooowever xfirefly9x poked me (weeksssss ago) so instead of posting this on tumblr it will go on here.

I'm 5'3" and a half and I weigh 110 pounds the last time I checked.
I don't weigh myself every day. I don't diet. I don't obsess over "eating right." I eat when I'm hungry and I stop when I'm full. I actually read an article once about how skinnier people don't have food guilt; meaning, I don't feel guilty leaving food uneaten and when I'm full I stop. I don't like the feeling of having over eaten.

Why am I even talking about this? I was in a wedding. One of my best friends got married and asked me to be a bridesmaid. The bridesmaid dress was a strapless, floor length dress from David's Bridal and to everyones glee it looked good on every bridesmaid, not just a few of us.
Even though I wasn't the shortest bridesmaid I did have the smallest size dress. One of my other best friends was also a bridesmaid. She's at least a few inches taller than me and is on a swim team and rides horses every weekend; let's just say she definitely has more muscle mass than me and yet when she heard my dress size it upset her. She didn't say anything to me but our moms talk and my mom let me know.
All I wanted to do was hug her and tell her that she is so beautiful and perfect just the way she is but not wanting to embarrass her I didn't say anything.

Fast forward to the wedding (I make sure my insecure friend knows that she looks absolutely gorgeous) I know the girl taking photos but haven't seen her in a while and so during the reception she says, "Yeah I haven't seen you in a while, you've lost weight." I looked at her like she was crazy and quickly told her that it must just be the dress or something because I haven't.
Then the next day someone else who was at the wedding tells me that I'm too skinny and I should eat more.

Unless you are seriously concerned for my health, just keep it to yourself or tell me in private, not where anyone can hear you.
 
I'm not sure where I was going with this rant but suffice to say people come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and you should never compare yourself to someone else. Just be the best you, you can be.

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acolyte33
Aug. 12th, 2011 07:06 am (UTC)
Hear hear! That's all I can say really, I hate weight comparisons and I really hate when people say, "You've lost weight, you look really good!" A. No I haven't, I've gained. B. Did I look like total shit before?

Sorry, didn't mean to rant on top of your rant!

*HUGS*
bevfank
Aug. 12th, 2011 07:23 pm (UTC)
Oh hey you! How are you?

Exxxxxactly. And there are so many factors that go into how much you weigh and what size you wear that you can't possibly measure up to someone else. unless you have an identical twin I guess.

((hugs))
maura3
Aug. 12th, 2011 12:38 pm (UTC)
You don't listen to them! You're a healthy, active young woman. I don't know whey people feel the need to comment about someone's physical appearance other than with a genuine compliment, but they do. Just remember to your family, true friends, God and yourself you are perfect as you are.
bevfank
Aug. 12th, 2011 07:30 pm (UTC)
~sidenote~ love your icon hehe

I had a cousin who lost a lot of weight and looked great but because he never said anything about trying to lose all I told him was "You look great." lol and then my grandma just came out and told him he looked so much slimmer but whatever.

Thanks for the comment <3
jr_moon
Aug. 13th, 2011 07:28 am (UTC)
isn't it terrible when women obsess over weight as if it means anything? As if it is a status symbol. As if they have a right to comment on other people's bodies. *sigh* I get a lot of comments because I'm so skinny and cannot help it. Just, as you said, never compare. Just be happy with yourself. (Also, I wish people would say "Real women have curves/no curves/long hair/blond hair/black...." because we all are, no matter how we look. *nod*)

*hugs*
bevfank
Aug. 14th, 2011 08:09 pm (UTC)
((hugs))

That "real women have curves" phrase has always bothered me too. Real women are all women.
nonniej88
Aug. 14th, 2011 12:46 am (UTC)
Have to admit when I was a bridesmaid at my mums wedding I hated the fact that my step sister was in a dress smaller than my own.
Considering I have been anorexic in the past I shouldn't have let it get to me, but hey ho, it did... But I got over it!
I'm happy with the size I am now.. to me I am just right!... And I love to compliment others who feel they are too skinny, or feel they are too big.. There is nothing wrong with peoples shapes or sizes... to me its the personality of the person that counts :)!
bevfank
Aug. 14th, 2011 08:12 pm (UTC)
Hugs all around!

Compliments are lovely, especially I think if the person has brought up the subject first.
(Anonymous)
Aug. 28th, 2011 07:54 pm (UTC)
backlink services
Thought I would comment and say neat theme, did you make it for yourself? It's really awesome!
bevfank
Aug. 29th, 2011 03:08 am (UTC)
Re: backlink services
Thank you! I did not make the theme but I did make the banner. ^_^
xfirefly9x
Sep. 6th, 2011 02:07 pm (UTC)
Happy Birthday. ♥
bevfank
Sep. 7th, 2011 07:54 pm (UTC)
Thanks ^_^
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